veterinary self careOh my goodness, it’s already November!

 

Do me a favor. Look back at these last 10 months of 2019. 

 

How have they felt? 

 

Look back at January 2019. Where did you want to be when 2020 rolled around? Have you achieved any of those goals?

If you haven’t, what has held you back?

As I write this, I’m sitting in a Starbucks, all by myself, with my coffee and my breakfast. 

 

My children are with the husband. They had their very first sleepover last night (timing that with daylight savings may not have been our smartest decision), so we have three kids running around our little tiny apartment.

 

My husband has never been bothered by that. 

 

But I very much am. 

 

Not the kids, at all. I love that my kids have their friends, and that they have energy and excitement for life that spills out of them at every moment.

 

But… the noise. And the energy. And the chaos.

 

See, here’s the thing. 

 

I look back at last January. 

 

I was living in an extremely stressful (toxic!) situation. I had a houseful of people (we rented out the basement of that house to students who came in for the ski season). Never mind my own children and three dogs.

 

I was working in clinics all day, which as much as I truly love it, is noise and craziness and talking all day long. It drains my energy, all day long.

 

And I’d come home to noise and more craziness.

 

I’d have a day off, yet I felt guilty if I tried to carve out any alone time. Because shouldn’t I be home with my children whenever I’m not working? Since my whole motivation is to be able to spend more time with them?

See, I sometimes have boundary problems too.

 

What I realized over the next few months, what I can see now as my lesson of those months and the area where I made the most improvement… is that I have to have my quiet time.

 

I am a serious introvert. I get drained being in a clinic around people all day, and then coming home to my extroverted children and a house full of people.

 

If I don’t get quiet time, I’m not functional. The anxiety goes through the roof. I stop sleeping because my brain is on constant overload. Those factors result in my being a less patient mother, a grumpier wife, never mind being snappier and grumpier at both staff and clients.

 

Sound at all familiar?

 

So why is it so hard for us to take time for ourselves? Why do we feel so guilty when we do so?

 

Because I know I’m not the only one who has ever felt that way. Women I talk to every day tell me that they just feel so GUILTY when they need a few minutes alone.

 

Have you ever been there?

 

What do we do about it?

Well, if this is something you’re struggling with, I’ve got good news. 

 

This is a huge part of what I work on with my clients. And this week, we’re releasing a brand new workshop, just for you. We’re going to be talking about how to take time for yourself, without feeling guilty, so that you can truly be more present for your family, truly stop feeling so trapped and burned out, and finally be able to move towards the life and career you’ve been wanting.

 

We’re going to talk about three major steps that will help move you in the right direction (that barely take any time at all!).

 

Are you in?

Make sure to register (click here!) so you’ll be notified as soon as it releases, it’ll only be available for a few days!

 

Let’s make the rest of 2019 and all of 2020 the best year yet!

 

~ To happiness,

 

Dr. Jenny